Feeling Lost in Life? Here's Why (And What to Do Next)

Feeling lost in life isn't, as it may feel, a sign that something has gone wrong with you. Most of the time, it's a sign that something big is already in motion, just before you can see which direction it's taking you. I know that's a hard thing to hear when you're in the middle of it, because feeling lost doesn't feel like movement. It feels like standing still with no map, no compass, and no idea which way is forward. I know, believe me, I’ve been there.

I'm Murielle Marie, a career and business coach for creatives, entrepreneurs, and creative generalists. I've felt properly, totally lost more than once in my life, and those times remain the most defining moments I've ever had. If you're in that place right now, where the ground you used to stand on isn't there anymore, and you don't know what you want or where to go next, I want to walk you through why that happens and what actually helps.

Why Feeling Lost Feels Hardest During Big Transitions

For me, it's always the big transitions, professional or personal, where this shows up. And mine tend to be big, because I tend to think big. The biggest one by far: my parents dying five weeks apart from each other in 2010.

I didn't feel grief in the tidy, expected shape people describe. And I wasn’t prepared for what I would have to go through. It was beyond anything I could ever have imagined or even put into words. What I actually felt was a total abyss, a darkness from the time I woke up to the time I went to sleep (if or when I was able to). During the day, that translated into a total inability to focus. Not sadness that felt familiar. No, this was different, a complete blank where direction used to be. In the first days and weeks, I was lucky I didn’t have to remember to breathe, because even that would have been impossible. As the weeks turned into months, I no longer knew what I wanted. I had no clue where I should go, professionally or personally. The internal GPS that had guided every decision up to that point had simply gone dark, because most of what I had done until then was trying to please my parents and live up to who I thought they wanted me to be (I've written before about the career-purpose side of that same year, when the question shifted from what should I do with my life to something much more basic. This post is about the lost feeling itself, underneath that question.)

That gaping emptiness you feel, between the person you were operating as and the person you actually are once the thing that guided your life is gone, is what psychologist Erik Erikson was describing when he coined the term identity crisis. A recent Psychology Today piece on this clarifies: feeling lost isn't a failure; it's a sign you're in motion, shedding one version of yourself before you've fully stepped into the next one. You're not behind. You're mid-transformation, and transformation doesn't come with a map. Or easy, for that matter.

The "Dark Night of the Soul" Isn't Just a Poetic Phrase

There's an old term for this specific kind of loss: the dark night of the soul. It sounds dramatic, maybe even a little woo, but it describes something real and specific: a period where an old identity comes apart faster than a new one can form, and meaning itself disintegrates. That is what I went through for about 18 months after my parent’s sudden passing. Therapist Annie Wright writes about this in trauma recovery work, describing it as the dismantling of the adapted self, the version of you built by survival needs rather than by what you actually want.

That distinction mattered enormously to me. My dark night wasn't depression, even though from the outside it might have looked like it was. What was happening was that, every time I thought I had reached the bottom of my pain, there was another, deeper pain waiting for me. Depression tends to be a closed, more static state. What I was in was dynamic, disorienting, and, it turned out, headed somewhere. It just didn't feel like it at the time, because nothing about being lost feels like it makes sense.

There's a name I find useful for the specific stretch I was in: transitions theorist William Bridges called it the neutral zone, the psychological space between an ending and a new beginning that can feel disorienting and empty, and strangely fertile, at the same time. From Meridian University's overview of liminal space in psychology: it's exactly the period when the old structure has dissolved, and the new one hasn't formed yet, and it's so uncomfortable precisely because that's the condition transformation needs to happen at all.

Here's what I want you to actually take from this: the depth of feeling lost is often proportional to the size of what's dismantling underneath it, not a measure of how broken you are. The bigger the shift, the more total the blankness can feel. That's not a bad sign, either; it’s telling you something major is happening.

What Actually Changed Things (It Wasn't a Plan)

I didn't think my way out of being lost. There was no five-step plan, no vision board, no morning routine that fixed it (and for the record, I love a good routine, a vision board, and a five-step plan). What actually happened is that I let the question exist for a while without trying to answer it. Who am I, now that the life I knew is gone? What do I actually want, underneath everything I'd been doing because I was expected to?

Eventually, slowly, that total absence of direction, that emptiness, became the exact thing that pointed me somewhere new. The dark night of the soul became my liberation. It's the reason I became a coach, not despite getting lost, but because of it. I had to lose every inherited dream before I could hear what I actually wanted underneath them, and once I could hear it, I wanted to help other people find that same thread in themselves, faster and with more support than I had. I've gone back to that same underlying question more than once since; I even wrote about the practice I use now to find myself again whenever something shifts enough that I need it.

If you're a generalist or multi-passionate person, this loss of direction can feel even harder, because you likely don't have one single thread to follow back; you have several, and losing your ground can mean temporarily losing touch with all of them at once. That's exactly the gap my Get Unstuck in Your Career guide is built for: naming where you're actually stuck before you try to force an answer you're not ready to have yet. It's also exactly what a coaching conversation is good for: having someone else help you see the thread you can't quite see yourself.

What to Actually Do When You're Feeling Lost

A few things that helped, based on what moved me through it and what I now walk clients through in the same place:

1. Stop trying to figure out the destination before you take a step. You don't need the whole map. You need the next action, even a small, uncertain one.

2. Separate the practical stuff from your identity. "What should I do for work" and "who am I without the thing I used to do" are two different questions, and answering the first one doesn't require solving the second one first.

3. Get support instead of trying to do it alone. This is not a solo-journaling problem, even though journaling helps. A dark night of the soul is heavy enough that carrying it entirely by yourself slows the whole process down. I couldn’t, and you don’t have to either.

4. Watch for the first small "want" that resurfaces, and take it seriously, even if it seems too small or unrelated to "fix" anything. Mine started as nothing more than noticing I actually started to want to do things again. 

5. Expect it to take longer than feels reasonable. This isn't a weekend reset. Give it the actual time a true identity shift requires, not the timeline your old, adapted self thinks is acceptable. In my case, it took the better part of 18 months, and looking back, I really needed that time to become the new version of myself.

Today, my life is entirely different from what it was so many years ago. But without hesitation, I can say that if it weren’t for this difficult part I went through, I wouldn't be living the happy, expansive, adventurous, and creative life I’m living now. So don’t be afraid of change and transformation; instead, use it as an opportunity for growth.

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Common Questions About Feeling Lost in Life

Why do I feel lost in life?

Usually because something that used to organize your decisions - a role, a relationship, a routine, a version of yourself - has changed or disappeared, and a new sense of direction hasn't formed yet to replace it. Feeling lost is the gap between those two states, not a sign of personal failure.

Is it normal to feel lost in life?

Yes, and it's far more common during major transitions than people tend to admit out loud. It often shows up after a loss, a career change, a relationship ending, or any shift big enough to dismantle the identity you'd built around what just changed.

What should I do when I feel lost and don't know what I want?

Resist the urge to force a full answer immediately. Start with small actions instead of a finished plan, get real support instead of carrying it alone, and pay attention to the first small want that resurfaces; it's usually the thread back to yourself, even if it doesn't look like much at first.

How long does feeling lost usually last?

Longer than feels comfortable, and there's no fixed timeline, because it depends on how much is actually dismantling underneath the feeling. Give it real time rather than measuring it against how quickly you think you "should" be over it.

Ready to Find Your Way Back to Yourself?

If you're in the middle of feeling lost right now, you don't need to have it figured out before you reach out. Some of the most important clarity I've ever gotten came from talking it through with someone else, not from solving it alone in my own head.

A free coaching session isn't about handing you a five-year plan. It's about naming where you actually are, right now, so the next step stops feeling impossible. Book your free session and let's find the thread back to you.

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How to Find Your Passion (When You Have Too Many)

Most passion-finding advice assumes you have one passion, quietly waiting somewhere to be discovered, and that your whole job is to find it. But what if you have twelve? Genealogy, building apps, coaching, writing, reading, philosophy, studying, drawing, making my own soil from kitchen scraps, growing things, sustainability, eco-friendly living. That's not a hobby list I made up for this post, that's a non-exhaustive (oups!) inventory of what I'm actually into, right now, at the same time.

I'm Murielle Marie, master certified coach, entrepreneur, and creative generalist, and I spent most of my life treating that list as a problem to solve. Then about 15 years ago, right around when I started coaching, I stopped trying to solve it. This post explores what changed for me, what the research actually says about "finding" a passion versus building one, and the actual system I use to run twelve-ish passions at once without losing my mind.

Why "Find Your Passion" Assumes You Only Have One

"Find your passion" carries a hidden assumption most people never question: that passion is singular, fixed, and waiting to be discovered, like a key under a doormat. Once you find it, the story goes, the rest is supposed to be easy.

A Stanford study revisited in a recent piece on the psychology of passion found exactly why that assumption backfires. Students who believed their interests were something to discover lost enthusiasm the moment the material got hard. Students who believed interests were something to develop kept going. These students received the same article with the same difficulty, but experienced completely different outcomes because of one belief about where passion comes from. The researchers' own conclusion was clear: urging people to find their passion teaches them to put all their eggs in one basket, then drop the basket the second it gets heavy.

"Find" implies passion is singular and pre-made. "Develop" implies it's plural and built. That one-word shift changes everything about what you're allowed to want.

The Real Problem Isn't Having Too Many Passions

I carried that "find the one" belief for most of my life, and it made every single interest on my list feel like evidence against me. Not "here's another thing I love," but "here's another thing proving I can't commit and that there’s something wrong with me."

I realized, about 15 years ago, that this was never actually a problem of having to choose. It was a problem of how I was looking at the whole situation. With good planning, and by combining instead of choosing, and by choosing what gets my attention in the moment rather than forever, I could have all of it. Genealogy didn't have to beat coaching. Drawing didn't have to lose to building apps. Nothing had to go.

A recent Inc.com piece on generalists in the AI economy makes almost the identical case from the job side: algorithms can already execute narrow, specialized tasks with incredible efficiency, which means a person whose entire value sits inside one specialty is, in the writer's words, a “depreciating asset.” The people who hold up are the ones who can move across disciplines and translate between them, exactly the muscle multiple passions will help you build without effort.

Passion Isn't a Weakness. It's a Mosaic.

Here's the surprising part when you dig into what current career writing actually says about this. Passion by itself isn't even the advantage. A 2026 Inc.com piece on career strategy argues that passion has become a commodity: millions of people are passionate about the same things you are, and increasingly, so is the algorithm. What actually sets someone apart is the unlikely, specific combination of everything they've done, what the writer calls a "mosaic." I don't think it's a coincidence that word is basically a synonym for combine.

Twelve passions isn't twelve competing loyalties. It's twelve tiles. Genealogy taught me how to trace a thread through a mess of scattered information, which is most of what coaching actually is. Building apps taught me systems thinking, which shows up in how I structure a coaching practice and how Coachmila's behavioral-change system is built underneath. Philosophy and ethics are the reason that same platform is built to safeguard people, not just engage them. None of these connections were planned. But they all strengthen each other, and inform the work I do one way or another. In my book Get Unstuck! I call the reason this Mosaic exists your “glue,” that binds all your passions together.

How I Actually Have Twelve Passions Without Losing My Mind

Combining instead of choosing sounds nice as a philosophy. It only works with a real system behind it, and mine is not complicated.

1. Ask what's essential right now. What's my current focus, what's actually making money, what's moving the needle forward. That's the layer that gets my attention today, this week.

2. Let everything else wait its turn, on purpose. When something new pops up, and with twelve passions something is always popping up, it goes on the plan to address later. It doesn't get chased the moment it shows up, and it doesn't get dropped either.

3. Review at steady intervals, not whenever I remember to. Weekly, monthly, quarterly, and one big planning session every December where I look at the whole year and decide what's getting real focus next.

4. Choose in the moment, not forever. Choosing what gets my attention this week isn't the same as choosing what I am. I can pick genealogy this month and app-building next month without abandoning either.

That last point is the one that actually changed things for me. I wasn't choosing between passions. I was choosing what gets my focus right now, which is a completely different, much smaller, and, most importantly, a temporary decision. Even with a system like this, the pressure can creep back in, especially once a passion starts running on deadlines and audiences instead of your own timing, which is its own thing worth catching early: creative burnout.

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Common Questions About How to Find Your Passion

How do I find my passion if I have too many interests?

Stop looking for the one you're supposed to find. Research on implicit theories of interest shows that believing passion is something you discover, rather than something you build, makes people give up faster when any one interest gets hard. Instead, pick what gets your focus this week or this month, and let the other interests wait their turn rather than trying to eliminate them.

Is it normal to have multiple passions?

Yes. Having a wide range of interests, sometimes called being a multipotentialite or creative generalist, isn't a focus problem, it's a different operating pattern. Career research increasingly points the other way too. In an era where AI can replicate narrow specialties quickly, the ability to combine several areas of experience is becoming the more defensible position, not the less serious one.

Should I pick one passion or pursue several at once?

You can pursue several, as long as you have a system for deciding what gets your attention in a given week, month, or quarter. The mistake isn't having several passions, it's trying to give all of them equal, immediate attention at the same time with no review cadence to sort them.

What if I never find "the one" passion I'm supposed to have?

You might not, and that's not a failure. The framing that there's one predestined passion waiting to be found is exactly the belief the Stanford research found makes people quit early. Passion that's developed, worked at, and returned to over years tends to outlast passion that was supposed to arrive fully formed and effortless.

Ready to combine your passions instead of picking just one?

If you've spent years trying to narrow a long list of interests down to "the one," you haven't failed at focus. You've been handed the wrong question. The real question isn't which passion to keep and which to let go of, it's how to build a system that lets all of them coexist without any of them stalling out.

Book a free 20-minute coaching clarity call, and let's map out what's essential right now, what can wait its turn, and how to build the same kind of weekly, monthly, and quarterly review rhythm that's let me run a dozen passions at once for the last 15 years.

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What Should I Do With My Life? An Honest Answer for Multi-Passionate People

"What should I do with my life?" isn’t really a question. It's an identity crisis, a mystical expedition, a demand for the entire rest of your existence to resolve itself into one sentence, and it usually shows up at 2 am, or in the shower, or right after a fight with your boss or launch that should have gone much better than it did. You type it into Google like it's a thing you can find, not a life you have to live. Of course, nothing that comes back actually answers it, because the question itself focuses on the wrong thing.

I didn't actually ask myself this question correctly for most of my adult life, I just kept answering it with whatever was already expected of me. I spent 15 years as an entrepreneur in tech, started and grew and sold companies, and from the outside it looked like a real success story. On the inside, I didn't love most of what I was doing. I was exhausted, always on edge, and the moment I hit one milestone I was already onto the next one, judging myself for not doing it better. I was living out other people's dreams I'd never actually chosen for myself.

Then in 2010, my parents died five weeks apart. That kind of loss just stops you in your tracks - full stop. I lost my entire sense of purpose, and for the first time in my life I didn't know who I was or what I wanted, because I'd never had to ask before, life had just kept handing me the next expected thing. What surfaced, uninvited, was the real question underneath all of it: why had I put off doing the things I actually wanted to do for so long, and why was I living a life I didn’t even like?

That question took real work to answer, unlearning old messages about what I was supposed to want, untangling what was actually mine from what I'd just absorbed as expected, and rebuilding from there. I've coached creative generalists and multipotentialites, or really, anyone who's never been able to fit inside one job title, through their own version of this exact question for over 10 years since. The kicker? "What should I do with my life?" won’t give you the answers you’re looking for; it’s simply the wrong question to ask.

Why "What Should I Do With My Life?" Feels Impossible to Answer

It feels impossible because it's built like a single, forever decision, and for multi-passionate people specifically, there isn't one true calling sitting around waiting to be discovered. You're not failing a test that has a right answer. You're trying to solve a life-sized problem with a search-bar-sized question.

A 2026 study in Royal Society Open Science, surveying 462 emerging adults, found that higher future anxiety was consistently linked to greater career decision-making difficulty, across every domain researchers measured, lack of readiness, lack of information, and inconsistent information alike. Psychological courage worked in the opposite direction: people who scored higher on it had meaningfully lower odds of landing in the moderate or high-difficulty groups. The research says career indecision isn't mainly an information problem. It's an anxiety-management problem disguised in an information problem's clothes.

Most advice about what you should do with your life assumes you're missing data: a personality test, a quiz, a list of high-paying jobs. You've probably already tried a few of those. You'll also see the claim floating around that the average person changes careers three to seven times in a lifetime. It gets repeated everywhere, but nobody can actually trace it back to a real dataset, so take it for what it is: a number people find comforting, not a verified fact. What the actual research says, though, is this: your fear about getting it wrong is doing more damage to your decision-making than your lack of options ever could.

You're Not Indecisive. You're Multi-Passionate.

You're probably not struggling to figure out what you should do with your life because you can't find the one thing you’re meant to be doing. But that’s the thing. You're struggling because you're trying to pick one thing when you were never a one-thing person to begin with. If you've never heard the word "multipotentialite," or you've just never been able to pick one lane, this is worth reading first, because it changes how this question lands for you.

My stance on this, after a decade of coaching people through it, is combine, not choose. You don't have to pick the one true calling and abandon everything else. You go deep on something, and either you move on for a while, or you circle back to it later, sometimes both, and that's not a lack of discipline; that's just how a multi-passionate life actually moves. "What should I do with my life?" assumes a single answer. You might without any doubt need three or four, held at once or in sequence.

The Question That Actually Works

Here's the reframe I give clients who bring me this exact question: we go from "what should I do with my life" to "what do I want my life to feel like?" One is the search for a job title. The other is the search for a felt sense you can actually test against real decisions. It's also the question that eventually replaced the old one for me, once I stopped trying to answer it with whatever looked right on paper and started paying attention to what I actually wanted to feel.

This isn't just a nicer-sounding question either, it’s where more and more people are already heading. Inc.com covered a real shift in Google Trends data recently: Google data editor Simon Rogers found that "careers that pay well" used to be one of the most consistently top-searched career queries, and it's been overtaken by searches oriented around meaning instead of compensation. People are asking the internet, late at night, what a good job actually feels like, the meaning it can give to their lives, not just what it pays. Separate 2025 research on values-based career decisions backs this up from the outcomes side: people whose career choices are anchored in their actual values, not just external markers like salary or title, report higher job satisfaction, better decision-making, and lower burnout risk down the line.

Feeling isn't the soft, unserious version of this question. It's the more accurate one. "What should I do with my life?" has no answer because a life isn't a single decision. "What do I want my life to feel like?" has an answer, because a feeling is something you can name, test, and build toward on purpose.

A 4-Step Way to Actually Answer It

1. Name the feeling before you name the job. Not "what job" but "what does a good Tuesday actually feel like?" Energized, or calm? Around people, or alone? Building something new, or finishing something that already exists? Write down three feelings instead of three job titles.

2. Audit what already gives you that feeling, even in the parts of your life you don't count. Look at your hobbies, your side projects, the volunteer thing you keep saying yes to, the parts of your current job you'd do for free. Multi-passionate people usually already have the answer scattered across their actual life, they just haven't been looking there because they've been looking for a job title instead.

3. Test small before you commit big. You don't need to quit anything to find out if a direction feels right. In fact, I prefer it if you didn’t. A portfolio-career approach, a few hours a week, a small project with an actual deadline, tells you more in a month than another personality quiz will tell you in a year.

4. Revisit the question on purpose, not in a panic. This is the part almost nobody does. Put a real date on the calendar, every few months, to ask "does this still feel right," before a layoff or a burnout or a birthday forces the question on you. Multi-passionate people who build in a regular check-in stop experiencing wondering what they should do with their life as a crisis and start experiencing it as maintenance.

If you want a more structured version of this same process, the How to Get Unstuck guide walks through it step by step.

[H2] What If You're Multi-Passionate and It's Making This Harder, Not Easier?

Sometimes the problem isn't a lack of direction, it's too many real directions at once, and that comes with its own specific trap: trying to niche your whole identity down to one message instead of letting each interest or project have its own smaller niche underneath a bigger umbrella. If that's closer to your actual problem, how to find your niche without picking one lane for your entire self goes deeper into exactly that distinction.

And if questioning what you should do with your life showed up recently because something disrupted the identity you'd built around your old answer - a layoff, a role change, a long quiet stretch - that's a slightly different question with its own answer: what's actually happening when your career becomes your whole identity.

I see this constantly in my coaching practice: the client isn't actually stuck for lack of options. They have too many real ones and no structure for choosing between them without treating every choice like it's permanent. Once you stop looking for the one right answer and start building a way to test and revisit smaller ones, the whole question gets a lot less frightening.

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Common Questions About What Should I Do With My Life

Is there a quiz that tells you what to do with your life?

Not one you can trust. Personality and career quizzes can be a fun starting point, but they're built to sort you into a fixed category, and multi-passionate people don't sort cleanly into one box. Instead of a quiz, use the "name the feeling, not the job" exercise above; it does the same job a quiz promises to do, except it's built around who you actually are instead of a generic sorting algorithm.

What should I do with my life, career-wise, if I have too many options?

Stop treating "too many options" as the problem and start treating it as raw material. The fix isn't narrowing down to one option through willpower, it's testing a few small versions of your top options at once, in low-stakes ways, so real data replaces the anxiety of choosing blind. See the 4-step framework above.

What should I do with my life at 40 (or after a big life change)?

The question doesn't get easier or harder at 40, it usually just gets louder, because there's more life behind you to compare against and, often, less patience for a wrong turn. The process is the same one outlined above: name the feeling you're actually chasing, look at what already gives you that feeling, test small, and revisit on purpose. Age changes the stakes you feel, not the mechanism that actually works.

What if I do all of this and still don't know?

That usually means the anxiety, not the lack of information, is still running the show. Per the Royal Society Open Science research above, career indecision is often less about missing facts and more about the fear of getting it wrong. If you've done the exercises and you're still stuck, that's less "try another framework" and more "get a second set of eyes to help you separate the real question from the fear," which is exactly what career coaching is for.

Still stuck on what should I do with my life?

Reading a framework and actually applying it to your own tangled, multi-passionate life are two different things, especially when the question has been sitting there unanswered for a while. A second set of eyes cuts through the noise faster than another quiz or another list of "dream jobs" ever will.

Book a free 20-minute coaching clarity call, and let's actually work through what "what should I do with my life" is actually asking underneath. No pressure, no sales pitch, just a real conversation about your next right-sized step.

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What Is a Multipotentialite? (And Are You One?)

About ten years ago, I was at the World Domination Summit in Portland, one of my favorite gatherings of unconventional thinkers, when I met Emilie Wapnick, who was doing research for a book. We talked for a while. I didn't know it at the time, but that conversation would become one of the small but significant moments that helped me understand my own life differently.

Emilie was exploring an idea while I was coming to my own conclusion about the same thing: that some people don't have one true calling. That, for certain people, the relentless cultural pressure to "find your thing" and commit to it completely isn't just unhelpful. It's a misdiagnosis of how they're built. Her work eventually gave rise to the concept of the multipotentialite (what I call a creative generalist).

I had always been a generalist. I got interested in things, went deep, then moved on. I started things and didn't finish them, not because I was flaky, but because once I'd learned what I came to learn, the pull toward the next thing was real and strong. If you've ever felt this way and wondered what was wrong with you, keep reading. Because nothing is wrong with you.

What Is a Multipotentialite?

A multipotentialite is someone with many different interests, creative pursuits, and deep curiosities, and no single calling.

The term was popularised by Emilie, whose 2015 TED Talk "Why some of us don't have one true calling" has been viewed over 9 million times. It describes multipotentialites as people who thrive on variety, mastery across multiple domains, and (crucially) the connections they can make between seemingly unrelated fields.

You might also know the related terms: generalist, scanner (Barbara Sher's term from Refuse to Choose), polymath, renaissance person, multi-passionate. They all point at the same pattern: someone whose mind doesn't settle into one lane and stay there.

If you identify more with the term "generalist," you might want to take the generalist quiz here.

This is not a personality flaw. It is a personality type. And it comes with real strengths that the specialist model consistently undervalues.

Signs You Might Be a Multipotentialite

Not everyone with varied interests is a multipotentialite. The distinction is in the depth and the pattern.

You might be one if:

• You go deep, not just wide.

You don't dabble, you dive. You become skilled at things before moving on. The boredom sets in after the mastery begins, not before.

• You get restless once you've learned something.

The initial challenge is what lights you up. Once it becomes routine, the pull toward something new is almost physical. I know this feeling well. It used to make me feel like something was deeply wrong with me. Now I understand it as information.

• You make connections that other people miss.

You'll read something about psychology and immediately apply it to business. You'll see a pattern in one field that no one in another field is talking about yet. This is one of the multipotentialite's real superpowers.

• Your career history looks chaotic on paper, but it makes complete sense to you.

Each change was real. Each direction was real. It just doesn't fit on a linear CV. If this resonates, you might also recognize yourself in The Multi-Passionate Mind: When Quitting Means You're Done.

• You've been told, more than once, to just pick one thing.

And every time, it felt less like advice and more like being asked to amputate something.

• You've spent years wondering what was wrong with you.

If perfectionism and the inner critic are also part of your picture, that's not a coincidence. Many multipotentialites carry both.

The Generalist Underneath the Multipotentialite

I've always thought of myself as a generalist first. The word "multipotentialite" gave me a richer framework, but "generalist" is the older, simpler version of the same truth.

Generalists are people who move across domains, building broad knowledge, transferable skills, and the ability to synthesize across fields. In a world that increasingly rewards specialization, generalists are often told they need to narrow down. What they're rarely told is that their breadth is an asset, not a liability.

The problem I ran into, and that most generalists and multipotentialites eventually run into, is the cultural myth that choosing one thing is the mature, serious, adult version of a life. That is, until you specialize, you haven't really decided anything.

I spent years trying to fit that mold. Trying to choose one lane and stay in it. It never worked, and eventually I stopped trying. That decision, to stop apologizing for how my mind works and start designing my life around it instead, was one of the most important pivots I've made.

The Multipotentialite and Business: A Different Model

Here's something I want to say directly, because it changed how I think about my work: with the tools available now (especially AI), you can start and run multiple businesses. You don't have to choose one thing professionally any more than you have to choose one interest personally.

But, and this matters, you do have to focus on one at a time, in any given moment. Multipotentialites often confuse "I can do multiple things" with "I should do multiple things simultaneously." They're not the same.

The clearest version of this insight I've ever articulated: if you're a coach who wants three completely different types of clients, you don't have one coaching business. You have three businesses, each with its own ideal client. Understanding that distinction is powerful because it stops you from trying to market to everyone and confusing yourself and your audience in the process.

Niching down isn't about abandoning your multidimensionality. It's about being clear, in each business, about who you're serving.

How to Succeed as a Multipotentialite

The conventional career advice (specialize, niche down, pick a lane) works well for people who are built that way. For multipotentialites, following it tends to produce a life that fits like someone else's clothes. Functional, technically. Chronically uncomfortable.

Here's what tends to work better:

• Design a portfolio career.

A portfolio career means having multiple income streams, roles, or projects that together constitute your professional life. It's how many multipotentialites make their varied interests sustainable, not by choosing between them, but by building a structure that holds them all. 15 Dream Jobs for Creative Generalists is a good place to start if you're figuring out what that could look like for you.

• Let your learning agility be the asset.

You don't have to master one subject forever. You can master the process of mastering things, the ability to learn fast, synthesize across fields, and bring a fresh perspective to any room you enter. That is rare and valuable.

• Stop explaining yourself to specialists.

Most friction multipotentialites experience comes from trying to justify their path to people who don't share their wiring. You don't need their approval. You need a framework that fits you, and permission to build one.

Am I a Multipotentialite? (Quick Self-Check)

Three clearest signs:

1. You've been deeply interested in at least five different areas in your life, not variations on a theme, but actually different things.

2. Each time you followed one, it was real. You weren't avoiding commitment. You were fully in (yet, perhaps, already missing something else).

3. You've wondered, more than once, whether something is wrong with you because you can't commit to just one thing, even though you're clearly capable, driven, and passionate.

If those resonate, you're not broken. You're probably a multipotentialite.

And if you're ready to start building a career structure that fits how you're actually wired, the Portfolio Career Starter Kit is where to begin.

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Common Questions About Multipotentialites

What is a multipotentialite?

A multipotentialite is someone with many genuine interests, passions, and creative pursuits, and no single calling. The term was popularised by Emilie Wapnick and describes people who thrive through variety, cross-domain thinking, and mastery across multiple fields.

Am I a multipotentialite?

You might be if you go deep into multiple actually different interests, feel restless after mastering something, make unexpected connections across fields, and have been told to "just pick one thing" more times than you can count.

What is the difference between a multipotentialite and a generalist?

They overlap significantly. "Generalist" describes someone who builds broad knowledge across domains rather than deep expertise in one. "Multipotentialite" adds the dimension of multiple genuine callings, not just broad knowledge, but multiple real passions. Most multipotentialites are generalists, but not all generalists identify with having multiple callings.

How to succeed as a multipotentialite?

Build a portfolio career with multiple streams, roles, or projects that hold your varied interests. Let your ability to learn quickly and synthesize across fields be your core professional asset. And be clear, in each venture, about who specifically you're serving.

Is being a multipotentialite a real thing?

Yes, as a well-documented cognitive and motivational pattern. It's not a clinical diagnosis, but it describes a recognizable group of people who learn across domains, find single-track careers deeply unsatisfying, and produce their best work at the intersection of multiple fields.

Escape the 9-to-5: How to Combine Your Many Passions into a Fulfilling Career (Without Choosing Just One!)

Why Specialization Isn’t the Only Way

Are you a multi-passionate, creative generalist who feels like you're constantly battling the world's insistence on specialization? Do you have a multitude of interests and talents, yet feel overwhelmed by thousands of ideas, always questioning which path to pursue? If you're tired of feeling "stuck" in a traditional 9-to-5 that drains your energy and kills your creativity, you're not alone. Many creative generalists struggle with the pressure to choose a single focus, fearing it will suck the life out of them. The good news is, you don't have to choose – you can learn to combine your passions into a thriving, fulfilling portfolio career.

Overcoming Overwhelm: Silencing Your Inner Critic and Finding Direction

From coaching creatives for a decade I've learned that the core challenge for many creative generalists is an internal conflict: they're passionate about many things and hate the idea of giving any of them up. This often leads to feeling overwhelmed by ideas and struggling with procrastination and mental blocks that prevent them from taking action. The inner critic often chimes in too, creating self-doubt and fear of not being good enough, or telling them that their dreams aren't real or possible. This can lead to a sense of being perpetually stuck or feeling like you keep looking in the wrong place.

Furthermore, many clients express a lack of clarity and direction when it comes to their career path or business ideas. They might be at a tricky point or crossroads in their life and career, wishing for financial independence and a business they love, but struggling to balance these big dreams with the demands of daily life.

The good news is that your multiple interests are a superpower. Your unique generalist brain operates differently from specialists, and understanding this is your first step out of the 9-to-5 trap.

Actionable Tips for Multi-Passionates: Build a Portfolio Career Without Losing Yourself

Here are some tips to help you navigate your multi-passionate journey:

• Understand Your Generalist Brain: Accept that your brain naturally wants variety and connection, unlike a specialist's. This is an asset, not a flaw. You don't have to conform to the norm of picking "one thing".

• Embrace the "Puzzle" of Your Passions: Instead of feeling scattered, view your interests as pieces of a unique puzzle waiting to be combined. The goal isn't to eliminate interests, but to weave them into a cohesive whole that makes sense for you. This can lead to a career or business that really lights you up every morning.

• Silence Your Inner Critic: That voice telling you you're not good enough or that it won't work out is often just trying to keep you safe from perceived harm or judgment. Learn to question your thoughts and regain control over your mind.

• Aim for Clarity, Not Certainty: Many wait for absolute certainty before taking action, but waiting to feel ready or confident enough is often what keeps you stuck. Focus on identifying what truly matters to you and what direction feels right, even if the entire path isn't perfectly clear.

• Take Small, Consistent Steps: Overcoming procrastination isn't about grand gestures but about consistent, small actions. This compound effect creates profound change over time and helps build momentum. Remember, action comes before the courage to act.

• Align Your Environment with Your Goals: Your surroundings can either support or hinder your progress. Make conscious choices to create a physical and mental environment that nurtures your creative pursuits and minimizes distractions. This reduces reliance on willpower, which is a finite resource anyway.

• Build Your "Glue": Identify the common thread, your unique "glue," that brings all your interests together and makes sense of your many passions. The clearer you are about this, the easier it becomes to choose what to focus on and make progress.

Through this approach, clients gain clarity and confidence, develop a strategic plan, and finally move forward and get unstuck to achieve their goals and create a truly fulfilling career and life.

The journey to a multi-passionate portfolio career is deeply personal, and often requires a different frame of mind and external guidance to find your unique answers.

Embrace your unique creative brain. You've got this!

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Generalists Are Poor, Specialists Are Rich - Not Anymore!

I came across this quote recently, and as a generalist who supports other generalists to become financially free, you can imagine how it stopped me in my tracks!

"Generalists are poor, specialists are rich. The family MD gets by while the surgeon is wealthy."

It’s a little phrase, but in my experience, even though it's a far-fetched myth, it can make any generalist feel bad.

For a long time, I felt out of place, juggling multiple interests and thriving in diverse areas rather than focusing on just one thing. People often told me I needed to specialize, that I started so many things, but hardly ever finished anything. But the more I lived, the more I realized that being a generalist is my biggest strength. My curiosity and wide skill set didn’t just fit into a single box - they built bridges between them.

And here’s the thing, the rapid growth of Tech and AI is making space for talents like ours. Renaissance people - those who see connections others miss - are leading innovation. We adapt quickly, think more creatively, and offer insights specialists may overlook. We’re no longer “jack of all trades, master of none”; we’re the missing piece that drives change.

Being a generalist means adopting powerful AI tools much faster than anyone else, amplifying our already impressive versatility and problem-solving skills. Click here to read more about my current favorites and how I use them:

• ChatGPT, Gemini, and Claude: These LLMs provide instant insights and help me adapt to emerging trends. I love the new OpenAI Agent for research and lists, Gemini for document summaries, picture generation, and emails, and Claude for deep research.

• Jasper.ai: Streamline content creation with AI-powered efficiency. Their recent updates make them my go-to for anything content-related.

• Motionapp.com: Uses AI to optimize your schedule for project management. Efficient, even though - fair warning - sometimes a bit too rigid for a generalist like me.

• Runwayml.com: Revolutionizes creative work with generative AI.

• Adzviser.com: Embraces AI technology to revolutionize digital advertising, empowering businesses to craft more effective ad campaigns, target the right audiences, and maximize ROI.

• Gemini.com Gems: An AI cross-functional team that empowers you to achieve more than you thought possible.

• HeyGen.com: Redefines storytelling with AI-generated videos, enabling users to create engaging, high-quality content effortlessly.

• ElevenLabs.io: Transforms the way we interact with audio through advanced AI-driven voice technology, giving creators the tools to generate realistic, dynamic voiceovers and push the boundaries of audio storytelling.

• NotebookLM.google: I love the custom podcasts and summaries I can create from information and knowledge I provide, making information more accessible and digestible for on-the-go learners.

• n8n.io: My new passion, an open-source automation platform that puts the power back in your hands. With n8n, you’re not just automating tasks - you’re building a powerful AI agentic workflow that reflects your vision, your ideas, and your unique needs.

• Lovable.dev: THE vibe coding app that I use to build coachmila.ai. Talking about my new AI coach, try it out here: coachmila.ai/free-ai-life-coach-mila

It’s not just about the technology - it’s about the courage to take that first step in embodying your creative generalist nature, trusting your instincts, and believing in the value you bring to the table.

Every challenge is an opportunity to grow, to innovate, and to push boundaries. Remember, you have what it takes to create something extraordinary - so start now, and see where your unique talents and interests can take you.

Let's redefine what it means to be a generalist - and why the world desperately needs us.

Here’s to owning your beautiful mix of skills,
Murielle

Featured image representing a diverse group of creative generalists, generated using AI by Google Gemini.

Are You Ready to Thrive as a Creative Generalist?

Imagine what you could achieve if you embraced the power of your many skills, unique perspective, and the potential of AI. The world is waiting for the ideas only you can bring to life - now with the support of innovative technology.

Whether you're navigating a complex challenge or striving to realize your next big vision, having the right partner can make all the difference. That's where I come in - I specialize in helping multi-passionate individuals like you turn their talents and many interests into superpowers.

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Manifesting Your Dreams: How Your Thoughts Can Shape Your Life as a Creative Generalist (I know it's woo-woo, but it works!)

As I set out to launch a new start-up project (check out CoachMila™.ai and let me know what you think!), I can't help but reflect on the incredible journey of being a creative generalist. This term has become an anchor for many of us drawn to a diverse and multi-faceted range of passions and interests.

Have you ever felt like your curiosity includes (but isn't limited to!) writing, technology, wellness, art, or even human connection and personal growth? If so, you’re in good company! How your brain is wired is a gift, and your interests are pulling at you, offering a unique perspective and endless potential. But let’s be honest - it can sometimes feel overwhelming.

Navigating the maze of possibilities can leave us feeling stuck, unsure which path to follow or how to combine our many interests. Add to that the stories we tell ourselves about who we should be and the comparison traps we fall into, and it's no wonder creative generalists often feel paralyzed.

Here's the good news: your creative thoughts can transform your life. By rewiring your mindset and intentionally aligning your thoughts with your dreams, you can manifest a life that reflects your unique gifts as a generalist.

The Power of Manifestation: Creative Thoughts Become Things

Over the past decade, I've explored and experimented more with the concept of manifestation - not as magic (although it sure does feel like it!) but as a process rooted in the science of neuroplasticity and the power of intentional thinking. Rewiring how we think - shifting from limiting beliefs to empowering ones - can transform how we see ourselves and build our dreams. Neuroplasticity teaches us that our brains are malleable; by intentionally shifting our thought patterns over time, we can create new neural pathways that align with our goals and values.

One of my favorite ways to put it is this: “The magic is not in the wand, but rather in the thoughts of the one holding it.”

For creative generalists like you and I - who often juggle multiple passions and ideas - this process is especially powerful. It allows us to embrace our multifaceted nature while creating clarity and focusing on what truly matters.

But let’s not sugarcoat it: rewiring your brain isn’t always easy. Your sheer number of interests can lead to scattered thinking, choice overload, fear of missing out, or even analysis paralysis. Comparison might creep in as we measure ourselves against other people's external metrics, like follower counts or career milestones. When this happens, it’s important to remember that change starts within you - by deliberately shifting your thoughts (over and over again, months on end) so you can create new mental patterns that align with what you actually want.

Practices for Rewiring Your Thoughts and Manifesting Your Dreams as a Creative Generalist

So, how do we begin rewiring our brains and changing our thoughts to manifest the lives we envision? Here are a few practices I've tried in recent years that have worked really well for me:

• Mantra recitation with brain frequency music
  I've been doing this for two years daily for twenty, and it has changed my life! Start your day by reciting empowering mantras on flashcards while listening to brain-frequency music, such as 417 Hz or other healing frequencies. This practice combines the cognitive benefits of NLP and repetition with the neural alignment provided by specific sound frequencies, promoting clarity, focus, emotional balance, and even lowering anxiety. P.S. If you want my Spotify playlist, DM me, and I'll share it!

• Create space for reflection
  Spend time in solitude and stillness through meditation, journaling, or quiet walks in nature to notice recurring thought patterns and identify those that no longer serve you. This helps bring subconscious beliefs into conscious awareness, making it easier to reframe them.

• Reframe limiting beliefs
  Challenge negative self-talk by replacing it with affirmations or empowering alternatives that support growth and possibility. Since last year, I've decided to treat every negative thought as false, and again, it has transformed my life! Honestly, is the negative chatter in our heads true? And, if not, does it deserve any of our time?

• Experiment
  Try small projects related to your passions and observe what brings joy and flow. Remind yourself you're not making a decision or writing anything in stone; you're just trying something out. The benefit? These activities engage the brain's reward system, strengthening neural connections associated with creativity and fulfillment.

• Trust the process
  Rewiring takes time; trust that even setbacks are part of building new neural pathways - and thoughts. But once the new thoughts take hold, you'll see the world in a whole new light. One day, you'll wake up and realize your life is entirely different, your habits have changed, and you feel more fulfilled. And that's the true power of neuroplasticity - the ability to shape our minds and lives through intentional thoughts and actions.

Embrace Your Inner Rebel and Activist as a Creative Generalist

As a creative generalist, you're not just someone with many interests, passions, and talents. You're also likely to possess a powerful inner rebel and activist. These traits are part of what makes you unique. Your inner rebel thrives on freedom and resists being boxed into rigid structures or routines, even when those constraints come from yourself (hello promises to me I keep breaking!). Meanwhile, your inner activist has a strong sense of justice and an innate drive to stand up for what's right, whether in your personal life or the world around you (aka, you hate following directions from someone who doesn't know what they are talking about).

These qualities can be incredible assets. They nurture your creativity and push you to innovate in ways others might not. However, they can also create challenges, such as procrastination, self-sabotage, or frustration when your work or life feels misaligned with your values. Recognizing these inner forces is a big first step toward working with them effectively so they don't stand in the way of your dreams.

How Psycho-Education Can Help You Manifest Your Dreams as a Creative Generalist

Understanding how your creative brain works - and why you think and act the way you do - can be the most reality-bending thing you'll ever do. This is where psycho-education comes in. By learning about the unique wiring of your brain as a creative generalist, you can develop strategies to work with your natural tendencies rather than against them. That's why it's an important part of what I do with my clients. For example:

• Learn to collaborate with your inner rebel by giving yourself more freedom in how you approach creative projects. This might mean allowing for flexibility in your schedule or experimenting with different methods of working that feel more aligned with your energy and interests. My Freedom Planner is a great way to get started. Get your free copy here.

• Empower your inner activist by channeling your passion for justice into meaningful projects that align with your values. Whether through art, entrepreneurship, or community work, finding ways for this natural drive to express itself can bring so much joy and fulfillment.

Manifestation begins with the belief that your thoughts shape your reality. As Gandhi wisely said: "Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions…" This quote reminds me that by intentionally shaping my beliefs and thoughts, I can create an outer reality that reflects my inner transformation.

If you've ever felt like the world wasn't designed for someone like you, know there's nothing wrong with how you're wired. You're not an "ugly duckling" trying to fit into a world of specialists - you're a swan among swans in the world of creative generalists. Now spread those beautiful wings and show the world who you truly are!

No more burning out, people-pleasing, or picking just one thing.

Through my coaching, I provide psycho-education tailored specifically to creative generalists like you. Together, we'll explore how to embrace the unique way your brain is wired while building a career and life that reflects your passions, talents, and interests.

By understanding the science behind how your brain works - including its need for variety, freedom, and purpose - you'll gain tools for greater creativity, resilience, and clarity in everything you do.

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